Ever had goal fatigue? Ever set some goals and not followed through? Here are 5 ways to make your goals irresistible. It’s time to get out of the failure repeat cycle and create some wins!
1. Keep it simple, stupid! (KISS)
I know that when you read that you totally might have been offended that I was calling you stupid. You're not stupid...but when we make our goals too complicated, THAT is stupid! I promise, I didn’t make up the KISS acronym- however it makes you stop and think!
KISS when it comes to goals. Just keep it simple. Too often we get carried away when we start dreaming about the end result we are wanting and then we get bogged into details and over complicate things. What does simple mean when it is referring to goals? It means you can repeat it without needing to read a large paragraph off a bit of paper. It means you can remember it without much effort. It means less brainwork and more action. It means that you have broken the long term goal/project/task into enough small steps and you are only going to start working on the very first step. Its simple really!
2. Use the snowball effect to your benefit
Think about the idea of a snowball rolling down a hill. At first, it might be slow. It’s small. However as it continues, it picks up speed, and snow. It becomes something much bigger, sturdier and faster than it was in the beginning.
*Caveat: I live in NNSW and I have no way of knowing if this ACTUALLY happens with snow, but I can assure you it happens with goal achievement!
Using the KISS acronym means you will have something simple to get started on as you are working towards your longer term goal. It might seem small, but it will be significant, and as time goes on, it will become easier to stretch a little further and you will start to gain momentum. Pretty soon, you will be off and running. So don’t sweat starting small. It’s a start. Let's face it, when you create a goal, really what you want to do is make a commitment and...start! if you make it too big and arduous to start off with your not going to feel like doing it. It won't be irresistible. So, use the snowball effect to your benefit.
Break it down.
Continue building momentum.
3. Mark it in your diary
This seems simple right? The theory behind it is simple too. If you can mark it in your diary, chances are much higher that it will get done. If you can’t mark it in your diary? Perhaps its too vague. Allocating a specific time or day (plural if needed) to complete your goal is a brilliant form of accountability.
Use whatever ‘diary’ works for you. Calendar app, physical book, wall calendar…whatever works for you is the way to go. If you need a second layer of reminding, create an alarm or reminder in your phone.
When you are creating an irresistible goal, you need to spend that little bit of extra time working things out initially so that you are taking out the thinking time later. In order for your goal to be irresistible, it must not feel like a huge imposition.
Mark it in your diary.
Repeat this sentence: "this week, on (insert time/day etc here) I will (insert detail here)."
Mark it, speak it, commit to it, then…JUST DO IT!
4. Make it a behaviour, not an outcome
Its easy to picture the outcome you want, and that is super important. If you are wanting to complete your first marathon, of course, picturing the outcome (you, running across the finish line looking fresh and rested…we can all dream!) is really valuable. However, ONLY focussing on that outcome is not going to get you there. You need to consider the behaviours you have to commit to in order to make it happen in reality. If you ONLY imagine your marathon completion without taking action...well, it might end with you passing out after 5k! Especially if you haven’t been actually doing any training!
Ensure you are focussed on the behaviour you need to adopt, NOT the outcome when it comes to creating an irresistible goal. A few examples to illustrate:
- I want to loose 10kg (OUTCOME)
- Next week, I will go for a walk after dinner on Wednesday and Friday at 6pm (BEHAVIOUR)
- I want to create a big garden so I can have a hobby and provide fresh vegetables for my family (OUTCOME)
- Next week, I will measure up the space and order the timber I need to build the garden bed (BEHAVIOUR)
- I want to have a better work life balance where I sleep more, spend time with the family and feel refreshed for work (OUTCOME)
- Each morning next week, I will complete a sleep journal to track my sleeping habits (BEHAVIOUR)
You will notice that all of the behaviours are just one small step in the right direction. Remember, its what you DO that will get you to where you want to BE!
5. Stretch, don't snap!
Let’s talk about stretch goals. When I say that, I mean goals that feel like we will need to lean out or stretch in order to achieve them. Perhaps a good analogy is to imagine that you are elastic. If you are elastic, you can stretch. To a point…and then? You snap!
Goals that are too easy won’t feel irresistible, they will feel mundane. Goals that are TOO hard also won’t feel irresistible. They will feel…well, too hard! Too hard usually ends in non-completion of the set goal, and this can leave you feeling like a failure. NOT what we are going for!
So instead, we need to find that happy place in between slack, and snap: stretch. Something that requires a little something from us. A goal that we know we can realistically achieve AND know we will feel accomplished when we get there. This will be different for everyone. It’s also why it could be a good time to book in with a coach- sometimes finding that sweet spot is tricky and talking through it can be really helpful.
Goals need to be irresistible for us to gain some traction, create some wins and move towards our longer-term vision. So- keep it simple, use the snowball effect, mark it in your diary, make it a behaviour and make sure you are stretching beyond yourself just that bit to keep it interesting.
Now, what are you waiting for? Goal it!
Are you ready to create some irresistible goals? I have created a FREE goal setting worksheet, you can get it by filling in the form below: